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The Negative Cycle Is Your Common Enemy - The Problem You Fight Together We all have attachment needs to feel loved, cared for, accepted – to feel our bond with our partner is safe and secure – from cradle to grave. When our attachment needs aren’t met by the person we love, some of us fight to get our needs met and some of us disown the needs altogether. See if you can summarize the pattern that takes over your relationship when your needs are threatened by filling in the bl

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy unfolds over three stages. Here is a description of what to expect, step by step, as you make your way through the stages with a certified EFCT therapist. Stage 1 – De-Escalation: Understand the Patterns that Keep You Stuck  Step 1: Set goals for counseling; understand some of the ways your relationship history affects your relationship now.   Step 2: Discover and describe the negative patterns of interaction you get stuck in. You and your

The term "fourth trimester" refers to the first three months after a baby's birth. It is a period of significant adjustment and development for both the baby and caregivers. At the best of times, it can be hard to be vulnerable with our partners and to send clear messages about our needs. So let's just normalize that it can be even more difficult to communicate when we are sleep deprived, our hormones are fluctuating and we are caring for a tiny creature whose main form of co